09/12/2026
Thank you 🙏!
I hope this post is received in the spirit in which it is intended: with love, and as a call in—not a callout.
I recently saw a post today from Hampstead Wildlife Rehabilitation that appeared to criticize rescues for turning animals away. Even when that isn’t the intention, messaging like that can leave the public believing that any rescue that doesn’t accept every animal, every time is doing something wrong.
For those who don’t know me, I’m also a therapist by day. I’ve worked in mental health for more than two decades, and over the past year I’ve been helping develop support groups with a research team specifically for animal welfare workers. I volunteer my time weekly for this due to the staggering rates of PTSD from trauma, burnout, compassion fatigue and turnover.
So when I see the capacity limits that I PREACH to my bottle baby trainees framed as a lack of compassion or commitment to rescue and rehab, I feel like I have to say something.
Because this mentality breaks rescuers.
Public shaming, impossible expectations, and criticizing others in our own community add more weight on the backs of all of us who already are carrying far too much. Folks, we have lost members of our community to su***de. Did we learn NOTHING from Mikaylas death?
Folks, I’m going to say what I tell everyone at my bebe training each year: You do not get a badge of honor for setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.
There is no gold star for destroying your health, never sleeping, maxing out your credit cards, or sacrificing every part of your own life and missing every moment you’ll never get back with your children. Taking every animal does NOT make someone a better rescuer, as saying no is the most responsible and humane decision a person can make sometimes.
When you continually take animals beyond your emotional, physical, financial, or logistical capacity something usually gives. And most of the time, that’s you. You burn out and become resentful. You crash. And after you recover – that is IF you recover – you may leave rescue all together.
If I’ve seen it once, I’ve seen it a hundred times.
One line in particular bothered me: “I’m not shaming anyone who does, for various reasons beyond their control.”
Why should rescuers have to justify having limits? Why should anyone have to prove that their reason for protecting their own health, finances, family, or time is acceptable?
We should not be shaming other rescuers. Period. Point blank. End.
That mean girl mentality does not save more animals. It further fractures a community, and drives good folks out of doing the work in the long run.
I’m incredibly grateful that, within our local cat community, people may not always agree (or sometimes even particularly like one another) but when it matters, they work together and do right by the animals. We understand that when one rescue collapses, it hurts all of us.
This is not a callout. It is a call in.
I ask all of you in rehabbers, rescues, advocates, and supporters, to think carefully about the messages, and the pressure, we put on good folks doing the hard work.