08/17/2026
Yesterday, my oldest told us there was some police activity outside of his dorm building at 34th/Lancaster. I checked the news feeds and didn’t see anything. A short time later, he learned a student took their own life by jumping from the building. He didn’t know the student, but I imagine he and many others on college campuses (and high school campuses) face some of the same struggles this student did
Teenagers and young adults are trying to adjust to new schedules, making new friends, trying to keep a social life, they’re trying to be the best son/daughter/boyfriend/girlfriend they can and on top of it, they’re trying to meet the demanding expectations of a university and society
When you hear something like that as a parent, you can’t help to think “Am I doing enough for my kids?” The pressure put on teenagers and young adults is absolutely staggering. We all remember growing up and trying to navigate life…hell some of us are still trying to figure it out. I don’t remember the teenage/young adult pressures in the 80’s & 90’s like I’m seeing today in both my personal & professional life
I’m sure the pressures were there in some aspect, but I feel most of us were able to figure things out without having the internet to get answers from. We didn’t have social media to seek validation and/or redemption from and the influencers in our lives were our own neighbors and family members
Our kids talk to us and share things with us, but it doesn’t mean we worry less about them. Collectively, all of us as parents will worry about our kids until our last breath. Keep talking to your kids, but most importantly make sure you listen to them
If you have been affected by someone taking their own life as we have, please don’t misconstrue my words & actions as if you didn’t do enough or this is me saying “this is how it should have been done” type of thing. Words come to me, thoughts come to me and sometimes I share it with people and this is one of those times
I worry about my kids, I worry about your kids and sometimes I worry about some of you too. If you or someone you love is struggling to get on, please reach out to someone, anyone. If you need some resources, I can point you in the right direction for services and assistance too