Michael Bassett, An Attorney Representing Survivors of Domestic Violence

Michael Bassett, An Attorney Representing Survivors of Domestic Violence An attorney representing survivors of domestic violence since 2005. I handle complex cases where the system has failed the survivor or her children.

Since 2005, I've been working to protect domestic violence survivors and their children. The way I practice law begins with a simple word: Listen. Too often, particularly in cases involving domestic violence survivors, I feel like attorneys underestimate the value of listening to their clients. They assume they’ve “heard it all before,” and that this case is like any number of other cases they’ve

tried in their lifetime. Unfortunately, they couldn’t be more wrong. These cases take up a great deal of time, energy and resources, and if your attorney isn’t prepared to aggressively and knowledgeably handle your case, you’ll quickly suffer the consequences. Roughly 90% of cases settle. Unfortunately, the statistics are much worse when it comes to dealing with an abuser on the other side. In the rare instances you can settle a case, I believe you have to prepare for trial as if it’s unavoidable in order to get to a favorable settlement. That preparation begins with thorough discovery. Discovery is a process in which you “discover” what evidence exists – both for your case and your opponent’s. In these cases, records (medical, financial, educational, police, and other types) are often very important – and abusers often do all they can to hide them. Unfortunately, they find help from professionals who may not want their erroneous or biased practices exposed. I also have extensive background in the psychological evaluations that are a staple of many custody cases. I am aware of the steps one must take to understand a report, the ethical requirements of practitioners of these reports, and how to spot “junk science.” I am also a strong believer that any evaluator must turn over all of his notes and documents underlying his report, and be deposed before the matter goes to trial. This is all a part of effective trial preparation. I believe in taking aggressive steps to counteract the lies the other side will tell – about you, and often, about your children. For that reason, I tend to write in a crisp, direct manner and will not hesitate to put the facts of your case in clear relief. As we work through your case, I am aware there are other needs you will experience beyond simply the legal services I can provide you. I have a significant network of professionals in the medical, counseling, investigative and other professions to whom I frequently refer my clients

The expectation is that all of this preparation reaches a crescendo in court, where we present a coherent case to the judge which allows him to understand what abuse has occurred, how it’s affected you and your children, and gives the court a positive plan that will lead to your children being protected.

09/09/2025

Friends, I am asking for your assistance in finding an attorney in the Houston area to serve as local counsel for a case I am working on there. In order to appear in the Texas courts, I must have local counsel; we have not identified anyone yet. This case is in Montgomery County, and involves two lovely young boys who have significant diagnoses and have been kept from their mother for far too long. The situation is desperate If you know of someone you think would be a good fit, who cares about kids and is willing to help a mom out, please let me know.

Please share this status. Even if you don't know someone who can help, you might know someone who knows someone. Thanks!

(This is, obviously, shared with the consent of my client. )

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I was recently doing a consult with a survivor who is going through a psychological evaluation.  She told me that her at...
08/27/2025

I was recently doing a consult with a survivor who is going through a psychological evaluation. She told me that her attorneys (who were from relatively well-established and respected domestic relations law firms) told her they really couldn't help her prepare for the psychological evaluation. That's baloney. (There are other words I could use, but I'll use baloney to keep this page family friendly.)

This piece hit my inbox from the fabulous DomesticShelters.org. (If you're not getting their newsletter, you should be; it's got lots of practical tips for survivors.) If your attorney's not preparing you for your custody evaluation, read this, and then find a new attorney. And if you are now dealing with a bad custody evaluation because you weren't prepared and need someone to cross-examine the evaluator, let's talk.

When facing a custody battle, prepare for a custody evaluation interview by making lists of abusive incidents and desired outcomes.

As promised, in honor of the Battered Mothers' Custody Conference, I will be doing free virtual consults.  Please click ...
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As promised, in honor of the Battered Mothers' Custody Conference, I will be doing free virtual consults. Please click the link and fill out the form to obtain one; I'll follow up with you via email. I look forward to talking with you!

Battered Mothers Custody Conference BMCC Consultation FormThank you for your interest in a free initial consult with Michael during the Battered Mothers’ Custody Conference! All consults are scheduled for twenty-minute blocks. The form below will allow us to make the most of our time. You will be ...

Very honored and excited to again be a speaker at this important conference this weekend -- my topic is "Communicate Wit...
06/19/2025

Very honored and excited to again be a speaker at this important conference this weekend -- my topic is "Communicate With, Don't Feed, The Bear: How to Communicate with Your Abusive Coparent Without Being Eaten Alive."

This year, the conference is virtual, so you can attend from wherever you are. It is also free to attend! The lineup of speakers is fantastic, and I'm looking forward to learning a lot! I hope to see you there.

(Watch tomorrow for info about free consults I'll be offering as part of the BMCC.)

Join us for the 17th Battered Mothers Custody Conference a powerful virtual gathering dedicated to elevating the voices of the disempowered.

This is such an important study policymakers and judges must be aware of.  DV/IPV has an impact on brain and mental heal...
06/10/2025

This is such an important study policymakers and judges must be aware of. DV/IPV has an impact on brain and mental health of survivors across the lifespan.

This is unsurprising; I am still waiting for a study on what the effects are on the physical health of those who deal with the horrors of custody cases gone wrong. I have so many clients with unusual, mysterious and DANGEROUS health issues. have to believe their revictimization in domestic relations court does not help anything.

Most survivors of physical abuse by partners reported blows to the head, linked to brain injury and poor mental health for decades

I don’t often get to talk specifically about the cases I deal with; however, this is a case which has been in the news a...
06/04/2025

I don’t often get to talk specifically about the cases I deal with; however, this is a case which has been in the news and from which I have authorization from my client to share some thoughts with you.

Over the past year, I’ve had the honor of representing Julie Valadez. While I have spent the past twenty years working to address the inequities of the justice system towards survivors of domestic violence and their children, this case has challenged me in every aspect and at every turn. Now, it’s taken a dangerous and even more horrific turn.

To give you a brief summary of Julie’s case – which is hard – let’s start with this. Everyone agrees that Julie was a victim of domestic violence perpetrated by her ex-husband. The court which granted custody to her ex-husband found this. Her ex-husband admitted it.

Julie is now in jail on a half a million dollar cash bond.

Wisconsin, where Julie’s case is taking place, has a statute which says that custody cannot be granted to an abuser unless certain conditions are met. Those conditions were not met, but the court granted custody to him anyway. Julie filed an appeal. A year and a half later, the court of appeals agreed with Julie and said that Ricardo was not eligible to be granted custody. (This was one of four – four! – appeals that Julie has prevailed on.)

At which point, you’re probably thinking, Julie got custody and went back to raising her kids. If only.

The case was transferred to a new judge. He said the first judge, who had made the ruling granting Julie’s ex-husband custody, was an intelligent man. He decided to leave well enough alone, and granted custody to Julie’s abusive ex-husband again.

Around this time, Julie became concerned that her safety in Wisconsin was imperiled, and moved to Canada. After her move, her 15-year-old son ran away from the home where he was living with the man who – in case we’ve forgotten – was found to be a domestic abuser. He stated he was suffering abuse. He told Julie he was planning to come to Canada. She told him not to. He did anyway.

At which point, everyone went, “Wow, this child is so desperate he ran to Canada, we should reevaluate what we’re doing!”, right?

No. They charged Julie, as well as the woman who drove Julie’s son to the airport and another person, with felony “custodial interference.”

I should note at this point that Julie has had essentially no contact with her other children. At all. In years.

I got involved last year with the goal of getting the case back on track. It’s been a bumpy ride. I attended a hearing in Wisconsin in November, only to learn four days later that the record of the hearing no longer existed. We filed a request with the Court of Appeals to get them to require compliance with the previous appellate decision Julie won. The Court of Appeals sat on it for months, before denying it in April. We are currently reviewing our options for dealing with this decision.

At this point, Julie decided she needed to come back to Wisconsin to be able to address the charges and take care of her children, which is the most important thing in the world to her.

She did this despite the fact she had a very promising case to be declared a refugee in Canada.

She did this despite the fact she was likely to be arrested as soon as she crossed the border.

She did this despite the fact the easier route would have been to stay in Canada. Because, for Julie, it wouldn’t have been easier, because she’s not with her kids.

There were no direct flights from where Julie was staying to Milwaukee, the closest airport. So she flew to Seattle. Upon arrival in Seattle, she was detained by the border guards. They noted she had a warrant. Julie pointed out that she had a ticket to travel to Milwaukee to deal with this warrant, and a court hearing scheduled for the following day. The border guards said that made sense to them, and they called the arresting agency to see if they were okay with Julie proceeding on to Milwaukee to address her charges.

And when they reached the Walworth County Sheriff’s Department, they said, “Of course! There’s a hearing scheduled tomorrow, so we wouldn’t want to delay that. Plus, if she’s willing to travel to Milwaukee on her own dime, that’ll save our taxpayers a boatload of money because otherwise we’ll have to transfer her. And she’s got a ticket to come to Milwaukee, so we know she’s legit.” Right?

Nope. This was never about being afraid Julie would flee. (In fact, I’d wager they were hoping Julie wouldn’t come back, and they could just keep using these charges as a way to keep her out of Wisconsin.) They wanted Julie detained and held. So, off she went to the King County (Washington) Jail. The hearing that was to take place was delayed, because Julie was unable to get to Walworth County.

The next day, Julie suffered a heart attack. She was placed in the hospital, and then returned to the jail.

A couple of days later, she was brought before a King County, Washington, judge, where the judge said, “This is ridiculous. This woman is sick, she flew back to face the charges, and we’re detaining her here in Washington which is not making her case go any faster. Let’s release her and send her on to Milwaukee,” right?

Actually, yes. That is what happened. An outsider looking at this said, “This is ridiculous. Get on a plane and go deal with your charges, as you’d planned to do.”

So, Julie flew back to Wisconsin to show up to court. The judge, in setting bail, must give reasonable conditions designed to (1) assure the Defendant shows up (2) protect members of the community from serious harm, and (3) prevent intimidation of witnesses.

Well, let’s think about that. Is Julie going to show up? She left Canada, where she was reasonably unlikely to have been deported, to come deal with the charges.

Is Julie going to cause serious harm to the community? No. In fact, you may recall, she was found to be a victim of domestic violence.

And intimidation of witnesses? Julie Valadez is a strong person but probably also one of the least likely to intimidate a witness I’ve ever met.

Which is why, I suppose, they gave her a bond of a half a million dollars.

I’ve seen a lot in twenty years of this job. A lot of cruel, heartless and frankly inexplicable decisions. But putting Julie Valadez in jail on a half a million dollars’ bond? This is beyond reprehensible. (And the judge who set it actually denied the prosecutor’s request for a one million dollar bail.) Julie is where she is today because she refused to sit down and shut up when the system wronged her.

This is not an easy time for anyone right now – there’s a lot of uncertainty out there. So I get that everyone has there thing. But if you have a minute to help out a domestic violence survivor who acted as any mother would have acted, here are a few things you can do:

(1) Read the article attached (and another article from ProPublica I’m going to post in the comments which gives you a better idea of the first several years of this case) so you have more background on Julie’s case.

(2) Share this widely with your network; the more people know about how badly our system treats domestic violence survivors, the better it is.

(3) Donate to Julie’s GoFundMe.

(4) Finally, if you’re still feeling salty, give Walworth County District Attorney Zeke Wiedenfeld’s office a call at 262-741-7198, and ask why in the world they think domestic violence survivors should be jailed on a half a million dollars bond.

by Luz Sosa

Very honored to have been invited to present at Break The Silence: Perspectives on Post Separation Violence conference. ...
06/26/2024

Very honored to have been invited to present at Break The Silence: Perspectives on Post Separation Violence conference. The summit is taking place virtually, and registration is free. (There are also options which allow you to purchase the ability to listen to recorded presentations, in case your schedule does not allow you to listen to any of them live.)

While my presentation will be this Friday, ,June 28 at 4:00 PM, there are a number of fantastic presenters, so I encourage you to check out the brochure.

Bringing Together Resources, Advocates and Victims of Post-Separation Violence

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“ I do want to say something about the overturned Harvey Weinstein conviction. Specifically about the reason it was overturned: Too many women’s voices. Too many women were allowed to speak.

Risky to let women speak? You’re damn right it is. Too many women speaking brings change.”

— Mariska Hartgay

Looking forward to being in a roomful of heroes at the Battered Mothers' Custody Conference in Albany this weekend.  I'l...
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Looking forward to being in a roomful of heroes at the Battered Mothers' Custody Conference in Albany this weekend. I'll be presenting on Eviscerating the Experts at 8 AM Saturday morning. (Who needs coffee when you have me talking about experts, right?)

If you plan to be at the conference and would like to schedule a free 20-minute consult with me, please visit my website's BMCC page.

Battered Mothers Custody Conference BMCC Consultation FormThank you for your interest in a free initial consult with Michael during the Battered Mothers’ Custody Conference! All consults are scheduled for twenty-minute blocks. The form below will allow us to make the most of our time. You will be ...

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Ask Yourself: Why is My Attorney Reading My Psych Eval?Sep 21, 2023This sounds like a dumb question, and many lawyers would tell you it is. “Because I represent you, and I need to be prepared to cross-examine the psychological evaluator in your case.”So, maybe I need to clarify: I’m asking why...

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