INCD Family Recovery Home

09/04/2026

Hate never comes from above. It comes from people disturbed by the fact that you refuse to stay beneath them.

So, yes—we know some people are watching.

Keep watching.

You’ll see a family that pays its obligations, protects its home, serves its community, and continues building something meaningful despite every obstacle placed in its path.

You’ll see people who document everything, know what they agreed to, stand firmly within their rights, and refuse to be intimidated for doing nothing wrong.

Recovery teaches us that protecting our peace matters.

It also teaches us that unresolved pain can spill onto people who did not cause it. When someone feels powerless in one area of life, they may try to regain control by directing hostility toward someone else.

We can understand where behavior comes from without accepting it.

We can have compassion for someone’s struggles without becoming the target of them.

We can offer kindness, resources, encouragement, and genuine support—but compassion does not require us to tolerate intimidation, transferred anger, or mistreatment.

Your pain may explain your behavior. It does not give you permission to make someone else pay for it.

We have learned that when people cannot find misconduct, they sometimes start searching for technicalities. When they cannot discredit your work, they question your intentions. When they cannot stop your progress, they watch more closely and hope you make a mistake.

But scrutiny does not frighten people who operate with integrity.

We are not hiding.

We are not backing down.

And we will not apologize for working, providing for our family, supporting people in recovery, or building something that helps others regain stability.

We have asked for nothing more than honesty, accountability, and for everyone to honor their responsibilities. If the right thing had been done from the beginning, much of the conflict could have been avoided.

Our response will not be retaliation.

It will be documentation, accountability, firm boundaries, continued service, and success.

Protecting your peace does not always mean remaining silent. Sometimes it means calmly making one thing unmistakably clear:

Your pain will not become our punishment.

If you are watching—watch carefully.

You may learn something.

—INCD Case Plan Real Talk

09/03/2026

🏡 FULLY FURNISHED EXECUTIVE ROOM — NOW $1,150/MONTH!

We’ve reduced the monthly rent from $1,350 to $1,150 and are currently looking for a traveling professional or other responsible individual who needs a comfortable, move-in-ready place in Kennewick, Washington.

The room includes:

• Fully furnished private queen bedroom
• Smart TV and dedicated workspace
• Designated refrigerator
• Kitchen and laundry access
• Wi-Fi and utilities included
• Dedicated parking space
• Month-to-month rental
• Clean, quiet, drug- and alcohol-free home

Move-in costs:

• $1,150 first month’s rent
• $550 refundable deposit
• $100 nonrefundable turnover/setup fee

If you know a traveling nurse, healthcare worker, contractor, student, or other professional who are in recovery and need a safe, fully furnished room, please share this post or send them our information!

📍 Kennewick, WA
📞 Mandy: 509-316-6978
📞 Aaron: 509-942-8525
📧 [email protected]

Please message us for additional information, availability, or to schedule a viewing.

09/02/2026

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I made this video to bring awareness to those of you who understand how much trauma this can cause families that are going through it. It is never okay to manipulate the situation and use children as leverage in adult conflict. I also feel very passionately about individuals receiving equal access to legal resources!

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09/01/2026

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07/29/2026

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Episode 7: CPS Says You “Lack Insight.” Here’s What They Really Mean.

What does CPS actually mean when they say you “lack insight” or “lack accountability”? These aren’t just opinions—they’re evaluation terms that can dramatically impact your case.

In Episode 7, we break down the language CPS uses, explain what they’re really scoring, and show parents how to understand the scorecard that’s often being used behind the scenes. More importantly, we discuss how to stop reacting emotionally and start approaching your case like a CEO walking into a boardroom—organized, strategic, accountable, and in control.

If you’re involved with CPS, this episode will help you better understand the system, take ownership of your case plan, document your progress effectively, and advocate for yourself with confidence.

Knowledge is power. Strategy changes outcomes.

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06/28/2026

The Grief Nobody Talks About

People ask us why we keep fighting.

Why we keep researching.
Why we keep reading court records.
Why we keep telling our story.
Why we built INCD.

The answer is simple.

Because some losses don’t end when a judge signs an order.

Some losses don’t happen because someone dies.

Some losses happen while the people you love are still alive.

Our family knows what it feels like to mourn living people.

We know what it feels like to lose our son Bobby through circumstances that left us powerless.

We know what it feels like to fear losing Augustus—and then to spend every ounce of ourselves fighting to bring him home.

We know what it feels like to have someone who has been like a father to me my entire life—my Uncle Orby—suddenly removed from our family’s life. Not just from us, but from our son, who lost an uncle he deeply loved without ever having a voice in the decisions adults made.

Children should never become collateral damage in adult conflict.

Siblings should never lose each other because adults are fighting.

Families should never become disposable simply because life became complicated.

People often think these situations end when the court case is over.

In reality, that’s when another battle begins.

You read transcripts.

You study reports.

You revisit every hearing.

Every allegation.

Every accusation.

Every visit.

Every goodbye.

You search for answers that may never come.

You replay conversations in your head a thousand times, wondering if one different sentence could have changed everything.

The world keeps moving.

Birthdays arrive.

Holidays pass.

Family gatherings happen without you.

People slowly stop asking how you’re doing.

Some don’t know what to say.

Others decide it’s easier not to ask.

Eventually, the silence becomes its own kind of loss.

There is a kind of grief that has no funeral.

No casseroles.

No memorial service.

No permission to mourn.

Psychologists sometimes describe it as ambiguous loss—grieving someone who is still alive but no longer part of your daily life.

To us, it has always felt like something different.

It feels like death by a thousand paper cuts.

Not one devastating wound.

Thousands of tiny ones.

Every accusation.

Every insinuation.

Every rumor.

Every denied phone call.

Every missed birthday.

Every empty chair.

Every family photograph missing someone who should have been there.

One cut doesn’t destroy you.

But thousands of them slowly bleed you dry.

People often say, “Just move on.”

Move on to what?

How do you move on from people you still love?

How do you stop being a father?

How do you stop being a mother?

How do you stop loving your child?

How do you stop missing the people who helped shape your life?

You don’t.

You simply learn to carry the weight.

That weight is one of the reasons Mandy and I built INCD.

Not because we believe every parent is innocent.

Not because every system is wrong.

But because we know what it feels like when families are overwhelmed, isolated, unheard, and drowning.

We know what it feels like to need someone who will simply listen.

To explain the process.

To help families make sense of what they’re facing.

To remind them they are still human.

If our story accomplishes anything, we hope it reminds people that behind every case file is a family.

Behind every court order are children.

Behind every allegation are human beings whose lives continue long after the paperwork is filed.

This message is dedicated to Bobby.

To Augustus.

To Uncle Orby.

And to every family mourning someone who is still alive.

We see you.

We understand that kind of grief.

And we hope one day more people will understand it too.

06/22/2026

Episode 5 assessment strategies and service engagement. We are breaking down dependency cases so parents know how to handle what’s in front of them. And we are digging more into the CEO mindset. Your case plan is not a punishment it’s a high stakes business contract and you need to be a CEO in crisis management mode . # familyfirst

04/28/2026

Parents overcomplicate visits.

Kids don’t.

👉 They don’t need perfect.
They need YOU.

Run. Laugh. Be goofy.

That’s what they remember.

Keep it simple.

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04/27/2026

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03/29/2026

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