07/03/2022
What I Learned From My Dad's Biggest Mistake
Many of you knew my dad, or have heard of him -- maybe in a story I've told about him, or perhaps from his career at the State of Michigan and the Kellogg Foundation. Maybe you served with him on one of the many, many boards and commissions he was part of.
Here's a story you've probably never heard: when he was in high school in Muskegon, he and a buddy "borrowed" a Corvette from the buddy's dad's car dealership, had a few drinks, drove wildly around town, and ended up burying the car in a sand dune after not-quite-making-a-curve on Lakeshore Drive.
That's how he was able to tell the story decades later.
Here's how it might have gone: Teens facing felony charges after stealing car, drunk driving involved. Prosecutor seeks maximum sentence.
This is why I believe in second chances.
Dad did something dumb and destructive. Very dumb and destructive. Something that could have endangered his life and others' lives. I'm not making excuses for that – and I know my grandparents weren’t interested in listening to any excuses. Luckily the car belonged to his buddy’s father, and it was all resolved behind closed doors.
Yet I also know that had he been criminally charged his life would never have been the same – and because he was a social worker, because he was a founder of the Greater Lansing Food Bank, because he championed deinstitutionalization in the Department of Mental Health, because he worked for women’s rights in the workplace, because he believed in rights and opportunities for the disabled, and so much more – so many other lives would never have been the same.
Second chances matter.
I don’t think any of my public defender clients developed a love for navy blue cardigan sweaters and good policy briefing books, but second chances gave them the opportunity to be parents, business owners, and good neighbors.
I’m running to protect the court’s second-chance programs: Veterans Court. Sobriety Court. Domestic Violence Court. Mental Health Court. Each of them have tough standards, but they give participants a chance to learn and to re-set.
My dad got lucky, but I think all of us who knew him were lucky, too. I want others to have the same second chance to make a difference in their lives and others’ lives. Thank you for everything, Dad.