03/19/2017
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today. If you
go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers
and grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there
were
more men than women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had
values and were prepared to build a home and not
park into a built home. Then, once a young man
comes of age and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what
we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average
girl to
define her dream husband; you get things like "he
has to be tall, handsome, educated, fair, and rich,
own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then,
check the number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and you
will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot
suffer in my father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning,
you have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns
around, then comes suffering? Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of girls
give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When
50 girls want the same kind of man and the man
that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the
man can
only
pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the
face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all those things
these
ladies want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those in
Internet fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands.(This is why
they always fall for
the wrong ones who would use and dump them.
Then they later carry the "all men are the same
saying".) If you look around, majority of the
ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change
your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and then saw
that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose
for making him, without a help mate and then
made the woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission
of building the family of God here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bo***ge. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A
MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is
today, may only be a route to where God has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT
HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all
men are husband materials. What I am saying is
that you should stop setting your standard on
material acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN
WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that
which he
is made of is, most times, not seen with the
physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is
temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
Prince Bobade Adeola
