25/03/2022
Marriage the word never comes alone, plenty words accompany it whenever uttered.
To a girl’s/bride’s parents word marriage comes with adjustment, compromise, understanding other’s more than self, happiness (keeping other’s happy at any cost than self). So these are the main thoughts they themselves possess and same the girl inherits from them even if she thinks different or feels different. This is what we see for ages and is nothing different in 2022.
To a boy’s/ groom’s parents word marriage comes with lot of expectations. And that is limitless – so difficult to define but few can be penned down – they expect the bride to be - unblemished beauty without brain, obedience, caring and compassionate, selfless, without ambition, others happiness to be the only passion of life. The same is inculcated in the groom’s thought.
And above things becomes the norms of the society.
We have crossed many bridges with age and time. From landline to mobile, bucket washing to washing machine, from chula to chimney, gas, induction, microwave etc, from filament bulb to led and many more. We have got accustomed to air conditioners, refrigerators etc for our comfort. But we till now not adopted the mechanism where we can tell our girls to be ambitious and choose career over marriage. We are yet to tell our girls marriage is an option not a compulsion.
Staying together does not only mean staying in the same house. Staying together means staying by each other’s side, maintaining a healthy relationship.
THE NEED OF THE DAY– LETTING THE BRIDE AND GROOM STAY ON THEIR OWN.
This will result is less divorces most importantly. This is a proved fact. Our society need to accept this and change. This will give a healthier society where every household with not face the world wars day and night. It will bring peace and love in relationship. If there is socio economic constraints then awareness of giving space to couples should be the program everywhere like our cultural programs.
The MIL (mother-in-law) – DIL (daughter-in-law) television soaps and movies should come to an end. Help from influencers of our society, judiciary and law are required to spread this awareness.
When a divorcee case goes to court there judges try to reconcile. In the reconciliation advising the couple to stay alone from the grooms parent, like the way a girl/ bride comes out of home to stay alone should be opted.
We follow the world for trends, why not upgrade our society with this trend of the world.