10/11/2025
TRANSITORY RELATIONSHIPS
FROM ADVENT OF MYSTERY
Demonstrations relating to reincarnation were a commonplace occurrence in Jamalpur. On many occasions Baba showed the past lives of different sadhakas. There was a special reason behind these demonstrations. Their purpose was to show how a particular trait or an inborn skill in a person's present life was inextricably linked to qualities he had possessed in his past life. The demonstrations also revealed the transitory nature of human relationships and had the objective of inspiring the Margis to try to establish a permanent relationship with the Supreme Entity.
Damayanti came from a village in Monghyr District; she had lost her young son to a fatal disease. Even after the passage of more than a year, she could not get over the acute grief she felt due to the loss of her child and looked for solace in sadhana. She also regularly attended Baba's Sunday darshans, where she would often see Baba giving demonstrations about the Margis' past, present and future lives.
Damayanti had a friend named Kamini. She would often confide in Kamini her grief about the loss of her son. Kamini was a regular visitor to the jagrti where she sold snacks. Out of sympathy for her deep anguish, Kamini informed Baba about Damayanti's distress during one of the darshans.
She pleaded with him, "Baba, she is not able to get over the loss of her son. He was her only child. Please do something to comfort her."
While Kamini was speaking to Baba, Damayanti was overcome by strong emotions and she fell at Baba's feet, crying inconsolably.When Kamini tried to pull her away, Baba stopped her saying, "Let her grief get expressed through her tears."
After she calmed down a little, Baba started his discourse. In his talk he explained that every animate and inanimate entity moves according to its own speed. Owing to the variation in momentum, the relationship between two entities cannot last forever. Everything that comes together moves together for a certain period but is destined to separate one day. In the case of developed living beings, this separation causes pain.
Baba then instructed Dasharath to concentrate his mind on his Ishta chakra. Touching the back of his head, Baba asked him to see the fate ofDamayanti's son. After a moment's concentration Dasharath said, "I see that he has been reborn and is now a small baby boy."
"Enter the mind of the baby and see whether he misses his previous family. Find out whether he would want to come back to the mother of his previous birth, if it were somehow possible."
"Baba, the baby is very happy where he is, as he gets a lot of love and affection in his new family. He would not like to be disturbed or taken away from his present environment. He is not thinking about his previous family at all."
"What is the baby's future?"
"The family is affluent. He has a bright future."
"Where has he been reborn?"
"In Guwahati. The name of the family is ...
Precisely at that moment, before he could finish his sentence,Baba pulled away his hand from Dasharath's head, withdrawing his ability to continue to see into the future of the child.
"If you reveal the location and the name of the family, Damayanti will go there and try to locate the child," he said. "That will cause needless distress to her and to the family of the child in Guwahati. It will also affect the development of the child's personality as he grows up. He will experience an identity conflict if he is told about his previous life.
That is why Nature does not allow anyone to know about their past lives."
Baba continued, "Like this, every life is just one of innumerable links in the chain of birth and death.
Everyone comes for a certain,fixed period of time and then departs according to his or her samskaras. Thus every relationship lasts for only a short period. It is the samskaras that propel this movement and decide the speed. No two entities can move together at the same speed forever. One has to move ahead, leaving the other behind in tears. It is like a train journey. Suppose you are travelling from Calcutta to Delhi by the Kalka Mail. A person gets on the train at Burdwan and sits down next to you. He is going to Chandigarh, and on the way you tall a lot together. You share your parathas, vegetables and sandesh with him.
"He says, 'I have some delicious mihirdana, the sweet for which our Burdwan is famous. Please take some.'
“As you travel, a certain fondness for each other may develop. On reaching Delhi you say, 'I must get down here."'
"Then you exchange addresses.
"'Please come to Chandigarh some time.'
"Yes, we will meet again. Do visit me whenever you come to Delhi.'
"But the fact is that this relationship that developed during the short period you were together ends there. Neither do you bother to go to Chandigarh to see him nor does he come to visit you when he comes to Delhi. You have different rhythms and goals in life and you move accordingly. Such are the relationships we form during the course of our lives.
Due to love for each other, people vow to remain together for several lives. But the reality is that their relationship ends in separation.
"Guided by their individual samskaras, people move according to their own speed and direction. While you are together you have to discharge your responsibilities to each other. But don't regard this relationship as a permanent one. The only permanent relationship you have is with Parama Purusha. He has been with you all the time since the moment your mind evolved from matter some hundreds of millions of years ago. He was with you during the innumerable lives that you have passed through in the course of your evolution. He is with you now and He will be with you until you merge with Him forever. So establish a bond with Parama Purusha and look at everyone else as only His temporary expression."
Damayanti left the jagrti feeling great solace that her son was happy where he was. After listening to Baba's discourse, she also developed a clearer understanding about the transitory nature of all human relationships and of the fact that God alone is our permanent friend, relative and fellow traveller..