07/07/2015
Relationships and Communication
Relationship as a particular type of connection between two or more entities or phenomena. A binding, usually continuous association between individuals wherein one has some influence on feelings or actions of the other.
Today I will talk about relationship between a couple bounded into marriage either arranged or by love. In the beginning of marriage there is a lot of understanding, dialogue, interaction but as years grow one gets used to the other and communication gradually decrease.Over the years in analysis different kinds of relationships I have found one thing that Communication is one of the most important tool to keep a relationship going. But can one sided communication keep the relationship going.How many would agree with me I dont know?
I have observed very closely while interacting with friends, family clients, that many of them are just in the relationship because of the children. They feel that if they break away the child's future will get spoiled and what will people say?. The tag.. of separation brings stigma in middle class society... In the bargain the children of these families have to undergo an atmosphere where there is abuse everyday.. physical violence, emotional battering..words spoken inappropriately, demeaning each other, and lots of negativity.... but still in Indian context we show a happy family picture like a hindi movie...
Do we understand that when a child has to bear this every moment what kind of learnings he /she is having..Can he/she ever believe in stable relationship.. for him/her relationship of marriage would bring in lots of trauma... These children grow up to become flirtatious, never stable in relationships, running from one partner to other not able to deal with their fear of trauma they went through in childhood. One more common mistakes the couple do is they think their children don't understand or know anything. ----Its one of the greatest myths. The children are very sensitive and they understand..If a relationship is giving too much of pain--it becomes an addictive relationship and not a healthy one.. so friends If anyone is in a very abusive relationship please take steps in the benefit of child's long term emotional and psychological health.. We have the power to take decisions and the decisions we take today will determine our future life..