16/12/2025
Chris Loewen ~ What does it mean for us to submit to one another?
That word “submission” is interesting; we don’t usually use it today—it’s somewhat archaic. We have to remember that, in Paul’s day, the Greeks and Romans had a strict hierarchy between men and women.
The household was governed by the basic dichotomy of ruler vs. the ruled; husbands ruled over their wives and the wives submitted. Husbands often “held absolute and unquestioned authority,” and we can see the rhetoric in the ancient literature that the “household code” was focused “on the patriarch controlling his wife, children and slaves.” In these relationships, submission went in one direction, from wife to husband, and never the other way around.
Apostle Paul’s call for all of us to submit to one another would have struck any of the first hearers as strange. It was countercultural.
Really?! We all, men and women, have to submit to each other? The submission goes both ways? This idea goes against the very fabric of their society. This call for mutual submission is a scandalous statement—but it is grounded in what was accomplished in CHRIST. This is so important because everything we see in this passage is tightly bound to CHRIST and HIS Love for the Church.
But what does it mean to submit? It simply means to place yourself underneath another person—it is considering the needs of other people before you consider your own. It is when you say, “No, you go first,” and are willing to take second place. Really, it isn’t any different from what the rest of SCRIPTURE has already said. Let us be clear, submission is not the same as obedience.
Submissiveness is the same as selflessness. The opposite of submissiveness is selfishness. We all know selfishness is like poison to any relationship, especially in marriage. I think it is safe to say that most, perhaps all, marriage problems stem from selfishness of some kind. This is crucial to keep in mind.
✝️ Love one another
(Ephesians 5:21 - 33)
Giving thanks always for all things unto GOD and the FATHER in the Name of our LORD JESUS CHRIST; Submitting yourselves one to another in the Fear of GOD.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the LORD. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as CHRIST is the Head of the church: and HE is the SAVIOUR of the body.
Therefore as the CHURCH is subject unto CHRIST, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as CHRIST also Loved the church, and gave HIMSELF for it; That HE might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the WORD, That HE might present it to HIMSELF a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be Holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the LORD the church: For we are members of HIS BODY, of HIS FLESH, and of HIS BONES. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning CHRIST and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.