Care for the Family Widowed Young Support

08/09/2026

💬 "Things Grieving People Should Not Feel Guilty About"

With thanks to The Wandering Widow for this helpful image.

07/09/2026

The years may have passed by but my heart will always remember...

06/09/2026

Grief fog is real. You’re not losing your mind—you’re navigating something immeasurable.



Image source: for Widows Foundation

05/09/2026

With thanks to: Afterglow for this helpful post...

7 Things my grief journey taught me:

1. An unexpected smile or laugh is a gift. After what you have been through…embrace it. No guilt. And picture your loved one at that very moment. (Are they smiling too?) Of course they are!!

2. Asking for help is a strength not a weakness. Sometimes we just need to gather the right tools. And counselors (especially the ones who have lost someone) can lend us the very best from their collection.

3. We are not moving on and leaving them behind. We are packing up all the memories and love and carrying it all with us….Moving forward towards them. Our meeting place is our future. Heaven.
Keep going. One heavy foot at a time.

4. Grief taught me to make my circle smaller. (Sometimes it was out of my control.) Life experiences like this show you who is there when it really counts. These are your people. An unexpected reality check I never knew I needed.

5. Piggy-backing on #4…people will say some unhelpful things. Especially if they haven’t lost someone yet. (Or compare it to the loss of their cat)
I had to learn to give grace. They don’t want to see us hurting…and the reality is it is impossible to fix this…so attempts to make us feel better always feels empty.
You can never go wrong with a tight hug.

6. Delete the -oulds from your vocabulary. (I should have…could have…would have…) Seriously. They don’t help you at all. Actually they keep you stuck.
We were not born with super hero powers of knowing what was going to happen. We only had the information we had at that very moment. If we were superheroes/or time travelers we would all go back and change things. We are only human. And living through one of the worst human experiences right now. You are going through enough. Ditch the guilt.

7. Make a list of what you would want to tell your loved one some day when you get to Heaven. I didn’t want to tell my mom I stopped living….and had to dig deep and try to hear her voice cheering me on.
I also imagined my own daughter in my situation. I would want her to experience all life has to offer. So I made a list. And I try every day to fulfill this. Although these experiences are all now bitter-sweet because I can’t call her and tell her about them..the idea that someday I can sit with her hand in hand and tell her all about it makes this heavy journey a little lighter.

04/09/2026

One of grief's quiet gifts is discovering that love can outlast a lifetime. We carry those we've lost not because we can't let go, but because they've become part of us.

Credit: End in Mind

03/09/2026

If you’ve been carrying grief on your own, The Bereavement Journey® could help.

It can help you connect with others who understand and move forward with your grief.

Our next in-person course at HTB Brompton Road (London SW7) starts on 24 September and spots are still available:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-bereavement-journey-in-person-programme-run-by-ataloss-sept-nov-tickets-1989220377698?aff=oddtdtcreator

Prefer to join from home? Our online course runs in parallel to HTB’s, and The Bereavement Journey® runs in other locations across the UK:

https://www.thebereavementjourney.org/national-online-course

03/09/2026

You don't have to be strong all the time. There is no shame in crying.

Telling someone not to cry can teach them to hide their feelings and block their natural way to release stress. But letting them know that tears are acceptable helps build emotional safety and enables the body to heal.

There's no time limit with grief and there is no rulebook. Even as the years go by, grief tsunamis can overwhelm you... It's still okay to cry.

Honour your person however you need to.

02/09/2026

Image credit: Bounds Recovery

There is no finish line for loving someone who is gone. 🤍🙏🏽

01/09/2026

Image credit: Gary Sturgis — Grief.

31/08/2026