This new book takes a candid look at the comparisons, contrasts, controversies and calamities that characterize the relationship between the United States and Canada. Geographically, not much. Some massive lakes and what President Trump once described as an “artificially drawn line that looks like it was done with a ruler.”
But culturally? Psychologically? The border may be invisible from space,
but it’s very real down here. As Margaret Atwood wrote in a 1986 piece written for the American magazine The Nation, the world's longest undefended border between Canada and the US might be better described as the world's “longest one-way mirror.”
When Americans look north, they tend to see reflections of themselves—a more boring, politer version perhaps, but still familiar. For decades, Americans have gazed north and seen—well, mostly snow—and the source, according to the news, of all the cold fronts descending in winter (“another cold front is coming in from Canada…”). They see shared language (except for Quebec), shared entertainment, and similar food. They see another version of themselves. But when Canadians look south, they see something entirely different—they see a cultural juggernaut, a political rollercoaster, a country that both fascinates and alarms them. They see a superpower. A bulldozer. And lately, they see a bit of a threat. And that asymmetry—what’s seen versus what’s perceived—is at the very heart of this book. In 2025, the return of President Trump has brought new energy (and not the renewable kind) to this relationship. Tariff threats have escalated. Offhand remarks about Canada becoming the “51st state” have stirred nationalist outrage. When the Canadian Prime Minister visited the White House, Trump reportedly referred to the border as “just a suggestion.”
To Canadians, it felt like betrayal. So why this book, and why now? The relationship between Canada and the United States is unlike any other in the world, defined by deep economic integration, cultural overlap, and geographic proximity. Yet it is also marked by recurring tensions, asymmetries of power, and waves of mistrust. This book seeks to explore that paradox. A recent Pew Research Center survey shows that Canadians’ views of the U.S. — and of its president — are at or near historic lows. Only about a third of Canadians (34 percent) hold a favorable view of the United States today, down 20 points from just a year ago. Nearly two-thirds (64 percent) view their southern neighbor unfavorably, with 39 percent holding a very unfavorable view — the highest level recorded since Pew began asking this question in 2002. Canadian Confidence in U.S. leadership has collapsed. Just 22 percent of Canadians say they trust President Trump to do the right thing on world affairs, compared with 52 percent who expressed confidence in President Biden only a year earlier. Nine in ten Canadians now describe Trump as arrogant, and three-quarters say he is dangerous. Perhaps most strikingly, the United States now occupies a contradictory place in Canadian minds: a majority (55 percent) still sees the U.S. as Canada’s top ally, but an almost equal share (59 percent) also sees it as their country’s greatest threat. Americans, however, see the relationship differently — though that picture is shifting. A Politico Canada/Ipsos poll in late 2024 found that 87 percent of Americans held a favorable view of Canada, the highest of any country tested, above even the United Kingdom and Japan. Nearly a third ranked Canada as the United States’ strongest ally, and over a quarter named Canada its most important economic partner (behind China). But just five months later, an AP-NORC survey in March 2025 , revealed a sharp decline: only 45 percent of Americans described Canada as a close ally, down 17 points since 2023. Democratic respondents registered the steepest drop, reflecting frustration over Trump’s trade war with Canada and his provocative suggestion that Canada could become the “51st state.”
That annexation idea was tested directly in a YouGov binational poll in January 2025 . It found that nearly eight in ten Canadians (77 percent) oppose joining the United States, with opposition cutting across all major parties and provinces. In this poll, only 15 percent of Canadians said they supported the idea. In the U.S., support was higher but still a minority view, with 36 percent in favor and 42 percent opposed. Support tended to cluster among Trump voters and in the Northeast, while opposition was stronger in the Midwest and West. I address the idea of annexation and the 51st state in the conclusion, along with the results of a separate survey I conducted during the research for this book. Taken together, these surveys reveal a relationship at once intimate and fragile. Canadians are increasingly wary of the U.S., torn between a sense of reliance and a desire for resistance. Americans, while generally favorable toward Canada, are beginning to reassess the partnership in light of trade disputes, political rhetoric, and shifting global priorities. Annexation talk, once the stuff of satire, has entered public debate — only to highlight just how different the two societies remain in their self-perceptions. This clash of sentiment — Canadians suspicious of America, Americans uncertain but still warmer toward Canada — captures the complexity of the relationship in this moment. It is precisely this tension, sharpened by history but inflamed by present politics, that makes the subject urgent. Understanding the roots of this paradox, and the ways it shapes both nations’ identities, is why this book is needed now. Who am I to write this? Born in the United States, raised in Canada, shaped by decades of global work for the United Nations, I’ve lived long enough on both sides of the 49th parallel to recognize the quirks, contradictions, and quiet tensions that define each country. For this book, I refer to both Canada and the United States in the third person. Not because I’m detached, but because I’m committed to objectivity. This isn’t a memoir. It’s not a nationalist anthem. It’s a cultural conversation—and I intend to host it as a respectful, thoughtful third-person observer. This book does not set out to declare one country “better” than the other. In highlighting contrasts between Canada and the United States, my aim is not to pass judgment or reveal bias, but to understand how two neighboring societies, born of similar colonial roots, could evolve in such different ways. Each carries its own achievements and its own failures, its own myths and blind spots. Ideally, the two should be able to learn from each other — drawing on the successes and heeding the mistakes of each country’s experiments in organizing society — to advance the well-being of everyone who calls these nations home. By examining their differences side by side, we can better appreciate the complexities of national identity without lapsing into simple moral rankings of one being better than the other. In other words, this book is not about picking sides. It’s about understanding both. Throughout this book, we’ll explore questions both serious and silly.
• Why do Canadian airports all start with “Y”?
• Why does the United States dominate Canada’s favourite sport?
• Is Canadian politeness merely protocol, or an expression of respect?
• How did the term “woke” become a four-letter word? We’ll also look at more personal matters, like how I was once beaten up for wearing long underwear, how I lost my Canadian permanent residency (spoiler: not so permanent after all), and how I became a fan of the Edmonton Oilers.
