09/03/2026
The phrase turns up on every foster agency website in the province, which is exactly why it is worth being specific about what it changes.
A child who will not sleep with the door closed can be handled as a rule to enforce, or read as information about what a closed door has meant to them. Same child, two very different weeks afterwards.
Most of what destabilizes a placement is not the behaviour. It is a normal trauma response being read as evidence the match was wrong.
The four pillars in full: https://www.safeharbours.ca/about-fostering/