Sarah Tolmie Life&Love - Holistic Community Care

15/03/2026

Thank you Women's Healing Sanctuary for inviting me to facilitate your Grief Retreat this weekend. It was a deep and profound privilege. And an amazing group of women. And special thanks Janine for hosting us with great care,love, humor and nourishing food. I’m at my favorite restorative pit stop on my way home at the beautiful Merewether Ocean Baths. Feeling complete and happy.
Xx Sarah
Sarah Tolmie - Community Funeral Director and EndofLife Services
Sarah Tolmie Life&Love - Holistic Community Care
Sarah Tolmie Life&Love Celebrations CMC

21/02/2026

Transforming Grief Into Hope - This women-only retreat offers a gentle place to honour the full spectrum of grief, learning how to live, love, and laugh again.

11/02/2026

Lately I’ve been thinking about how love behaves more like land than lightning.
It responds to attention. It weakens with neglect.
It becomes robust when it’s nourished consistently.
I’ve just shared a new article exploring relationships through the lens of gardens and permaculture — and why tending matters more than intensity.
If you’re building something long-term, this is for you.
https://sarahtolmie.com.au/designed-to-last-growing-a-robust-relationship/

xx
Sarah

04/02/2026

Yes. I like this definition and honoring of a death and a grief that is inherent in commitment - and therein lies the paradox - as it allows you to fully presence and live into something
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Sarah

"The best definition I’ve ever heard of commitment:

*You choose one life,
and you let all the others die.*

You stop fantasising about parallel selves and unrealised futures.

You stop half-living, half-inside a thousand imagined lives.

You grieve the lives you will never live, the selves you will never be.

Yes. Grief sits at the heart of commitment.

All the other paths.

All the other options.

It is a direct encounter with death.

Not the concept of it, but the reality of it, how it permeates life and is one with it.

Sacred commitment is the falling away of countless possible futures.

And yet, in that grief, something settles.
Something ancient and deep.

As the other fantasy lives die, you can finally be present for this one.
You can finally… live.

You plant your flag here.
In this body.
In this moment.
On this path.
You say YES to where you are!

In sacred commitment, your feet finally touch the ground.
It is not restriction or loss of freedom.
It is a portal to great joy."
~ Jeff Foster

Art by Eileen Lawrence

30/01/2026

The problem is real and painful for many partners. The inequality. The invisible work. Home and kids are an equal partnership. Be careful not to make yourself redundant. Love the word - gonna use it - “choreplay”
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For years, Jordan Carlos thought that because he was hustling as a comedian to make money for his family, he didn't have to do chores and child care at home. He left most of it to his wife, even though she had a job too. It all eventually reached a breaking point.

On "Modern Love," Jordan talks about how he had to step up or lose his family. https://nyti.ms/4a8f87G

10/01/2026

Fabulous new spiritual co-op with beautiful magic goodies and crystals and yummy scents and jewelry and ceremonial specialties has opened up on the corner below me. Elemental & Co. welcome to the corner and all the best.

22/12/2025

Festive Love and Summer Blessings
Thank you for your community and connection this year.
Here is my end-of-year message and some FREE resources to get you through the festive season.
Merry Christmas - Happy Holidays - Summer Love Blessings
Peace Be With You All
xox
Sarah Tolmie

Hello dear ones.Thank you for your community and connection this year. My happy place is to be in service to life & love. Whether that is in relationship repair, recovery, reconnection, and re-creation; or supporting families at end-of-life in my funeral and sacred deathcare practice; or in celebra...

15/12/2025

Christmas… it’s beautiful. And it’s a lot.

So much love. So much history. So many people, opinions, emotions, expectations, traditions—and let’s be honest—triggers—gathered around one table.

If you’re feeling both excited and slightly on edge heading into the festive season, you’re not alone. This time of year amplifies everything: the good, the hard, and the unresolved.

I’ve written an article to gently support you through holiday gatherings and family reunions—with practical, relationship-wise strategies drawn from Gottman work, nervous system care, and real life.

It’s not about fixing people or confronting old wounds.
It’s about coping wisely, protecting connection where it matters, and getting through with your wellbeing—and relationships—intact.

January is for therapy.
December is for kindness, realism, and breathing.

🎄 Read the full article here:

Surviving (and Maybe Even Thriving) the Holidays:A Love-Centred Guide to Christmas, Family, and Keeping Your Sanity Ahhh, the festive season. Twinkly lights. Full calendars. Too much food. Too little sleep. Big love, big feelings… and sometimes big explosions.

10/12/2025

Good reminders as we come into holiday season and end of year reflections and transitioning into a new year.
Xx
Sarah

Adjust these things now to enjoy a better quality of life straight away.