05/06/2026
Update:
Thank you all for continuing to show support for Coby’s Law.
Once again, the court hearing tomorrow was cancelled and rescheduled….
It has been very frustrating honestly. I try to be faithful in our justice system, but sometimes I feel like criminals have more rights to protect them. Grieving families have to wait for for justice to be served. My son's death happened over a year ago and the impaired driver got to continue on with life for months without arrest due to not having lab results back, and not having case together in time (due to toxicology wait times) for Grand Jury indictment. I know this process is necessary but each time a court date is rescheduled or cancelled at the last minute my faith in the justice system is tested over and over and can feel like a slap to the face.
As I watched the sentencing for Tanner Horner yesterday, I just couldn't understand how it went on for almost 4 years, when all the evidence was there. As that case is much different from Coby's it still seems like our system is so geared to what is most convenient for the accused. Our loved ones are in the ground, and our hearts hurt, but we are just left to sit and wait years for closure.
It's also upsetting to hear at the last minute, a day before court…an officer isn't available that day.... when given a subpoena and notice over a month ago. I would make every single effort I could to inform someone I couldn't make it way before then. I would also think about the family waiting for justice and do my best to make it a priority. But these are other things beyond my control.
I have often been asked about my trial of forgiveness. I can say when there is remorse, its much easier. But when the criminal hides out from arrest, once arrested… bails out in 2 days, then commits other crimes and put back in jail, then bails out again.... and gets to spend time with his family on house arrest....while we no longer get to spend time with our Coby........ it just doesn't seem right. That type of forgiveness isn't easy.
Forgiveness is a place I struggle with, it almost feels like a validation to being okay with what happen, or even feels like I am letting Coby down. It feels like I am not honoring his memory and trying to forget it. But as my faith gets stronger and I turn this over to God, I realize that forgiveness isn't about the criminal at all, it is about releasing a burden. Trust me, I want this man to receive his consequences, but no matter how much I want it, i cant make the process faster.
I truly have to have faith and place this burden in God’s hands.
