09/10/2026
She seems completely fine when I visit.”
But then a caregiver, sibling, or senior-living staff member describes a very different picture. Who should you believe?
Possibly both of them.
Some older adults can appear unusually alert, social, organized, or independent for a short period—especially when someone important comes to visit. Families sometimes hear this described as “showtiming.”
A 30-minute visit may not reveal what happens throughout an entire day: missed medications, repeated questions, difficulty preparing meals, nighttime confusion, trouble managing personal care, or other changes.
That doesn’t mean every cheerful visit is masking a problem. It means one good visit shouldn’t automatically outweigh patterns observed consistently over time.
If you’re concerned, compare notes with the people who regularly spend time with your loved one and look for patterns rather than relying on one snapshot.
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