16/06/2026
Grief and afterlife
Hoping this little story helps anyone struggling with grief. Sometimes reading stories and having hope that there is an afterlife and their loved ones are ok helps tremendously.
I lost my beautiful mum 6 months ago. She always said she would try and come to me in dreams and to think of her when I see butterflies.. well 6 months on it felt like nothing but the odd butterfly in the backyard. I was losing hope that her soul even still existed.
A few weeks ago my 4 year old son came into my room at 3am like he usually does struggling to get back to sleep. He chatted about random things for a bit until he stopped and looked over my shoulder towards the wall and said ‘mum who is that?’ I said ‘what do you mean?’ And he just repeated ‘who is that?’ I honestly felt scared as I knew there was only a wall behind me and being too scared to look I told him to go back to sleep. When I got the courage to look I saw there was nothing there. He also mentioned that they said something about ‘a handle’. And note he didn’t seem scared just confused.
The next day I asked him if who he saw was a girl or a boy in which he said ‘girl wearing purple’. I asked him if they were little like him or big like me in which he said big. I showed him a picture of ‘nanny’ my mum and asked him if it was her and he stared for a while but said he wasn’t sure. Note he was 3 when she passed and she was sick with cancer most of his life so his memory of her was mostly of her sick and going through chemo.
A few days later I caught up with my mums best friend and she mentioned how my mum visited her in a dream. She said she looked younger with her long dark hair and that she was wearing purple. She looked beautiful and how she would have wanted us to remember her. She said she told her she was okay and to let the family know. In the dream my mum told her friend that she couldn’t communicate with us (her family) because we are still heavily grieving and haven’t accepted it and that there is some sort of block. This instantly made me feel as though it was my mum communicating with my son as that is the only way she could.
I found an old picture of my mum before she was sick to show my son and as soon as he saw it he said ‘yes that one’. When my mum was alive she only wanted us to remember her before she got sick and never wanted any photos shown of her without hair. This may explain why my son didn’t recognise her spirit as he only remembers my mum sick.
Below is the picture I showed him in which he recognised.
Side note: I couldn’t figure out what my son meant by ‘the handle’ comment after seeing her. We live in and are renovating my mums house which is what she always wanted to do. We had just recently changed the handle on the bedroom door so I wonder if she was mentioning that?
Obviously it’s all unexplained so take it how you perceive it but I’m genuinely feel my mums soul is out there somewhere and I hope this can help anyone else who may be going through something similar 💕