25/09/2024
What have I missed??
In a culture where shared parental leave is dire and rarely taken up, when the common model is for one parent to stay home with a baby while another works (often elsewhere) for most of the day, it's no surprise that in two-parenr households one of us quickly becomes the "default parent".
This often leads to overwhelm, resentment and burnout for the default parent, and disempowerment, loss of confidence, and resentment for the non-default parent. It's rubbish.
Our society sets us up for this to happen. It's nobody's fault as individuals. But once it happens, and we notice it, we all have a responsibility to work to shift this dynamic if it isn't working for us.
Starting solids has been a reminder in our house of just how easy it is for me to slip into default parent mode. We've consciously tried to share more of these tasks with our second child - with greater and lesser success 😅
How has starting solids been for you, if you have another parent at home?